The day that changed your life forever, started out like every other day. How would you know it was the beginning of the end? How do you make sense of a day that sent your life spinning out of control? A regular day became the turning point to the rest of your life.
Your own “D-Day”
Everyone has at least one “D-Day,” a day that changes the course of their life, with many of us having several. Such as the day you face death, your own or someone else’s. It may be the day someone left you, your soulmate, a parent or a sibling. Possibly it was something you did or didn’t do, an opportunity missed or a path not taken.
Flashbacks
We often have flashbacks of days that we were turning point in our lives. Those days become landmarks in which we focus unnecessary energy on. They are given titles with an entire background story. This gives us some mental justification to dread, avoid or even obsess over a single day. We will relive a single day or event over and over again. In some cases, we are looking for what could have been done differently. For others, we are searching for the reasoning behind the event. What we want to find is justification for the event and a different result.
It was just another day
Before we turned “a day” into our own personal “D-Day” it was just like any other. Regardless of what events happen during a given day, the days continue. One day rolls into the next, which turns into a week and so on. What does change is the meaning we give to each day. An example is what meaning you would give if your child is born on the same day as a loved one’s passing.
The important thing is to give each day it’s due, no more and no less. Every day has the potential to be awesome when uninfluenced by the past. You have to go into every day knowing that there are events that will happen, and that it doesn’t define the day.
Time to change the view
We view these days as life-changing and assign the day with a landmark image. With that view, days are often given negative meanings. Soon we create a mental thought loop around the day and the event. With a negative meaning attached, the loop grows and can become out of control.
You can change your Mental Thought Loop creating a positive view. This gives the event and the day a whole new view and a new meaning. This doesn’t change the event it just gives you a new view on the day (The goal is not to take away from the event or stop you from acknowledging the event but to seperate them from the day).
Four Steps To Change
You change the view of what a day means so when an event has occurred that triggers life changing thoughts you still see the day. You can change your view of the event and of the day by remembering the following four things. These things help reassign the meaning of the day:
1. It was just a normal day – no matter what happened, the event was not because of the day.
2. The event and the day are seperate. The two have only one thing in common and that is that the event happened on that day.
3. The day doesn’t control your emotions. It is the event that happened and the emotion you have assign to it. You can change the emotion..
4. You have control over each day and its meaning. At the end of each day you have the choice, what meaning you will assign to each day is up to you. There is also the opportunity to reassign the meaning to the day.
I have had to reassign several days. The day my Father died and both of the days my Mother died. I learned to do this to keep having days I could face. With practice, you can have days you love again.
